Sometimes, it’s better to be alone.
Despite our desire to share trips and life experiences with people around us, it can be just as beneficial to do those things solo. Spending time with yourself is the best way to figure out what you like — without any having influences get in the way. This increases self-confidence because the more we know about ourselves, the more confident we can be when we go out into our everyday lives. We all have an inner guidance system, but the problem is we are too damn busy in life that we rarely connect to it.
In a recent study, scientists found that highly intelligent people became less satisfied the more time they spent with friends. In other words, spending some quality time with me, myself, and I is good for your overall well-being and results in greater life satisfaction—which makes total sense. When you're doing something solo you can go at your own pace, you can think for yourself, you can discover new things about yourself, and you can improve your self-esteem.
If you want to enjoy life and discover your inner self, here are 6 things to try doing alone that you will enjoy:
1. Take Yourself Out For A Meal
There’s no reason to be shy about going out to eat alone. In fact, it can be pretty nice to go wherever you want, order whatever you want, drink whatever you want, and have a whole table to yourself. If you feel like being a bit social, sit at the bar to eat. People sitting at the bar tend to be friendlier and more open--and to have better stories. Go to one of your favorite restaurants and order the meal you’ve been craving. Bring a book along if you’d like, or enjoy your meal while people-watching.
Whether this means overseas or to a new city for the weekend, everyone should travel alone. It gives you a sense of independence and allows you to do whatever you want to do for the whole time you are there. On top of the adventure of discovering new places, traveling alone allows you to meet new people and organize days on your own terms. It will give you a sense of pride, allow you to step outside your comfort zone and learn new things about yourself.
3. Treat Yourself
Often times we're so caught up in work and family responsibilities that decades can go by in a split second—and we realize we never had that experience we wanted to have. Perhaps it's that family heritage trip you've always wanted to take, or buying concert tickets, but make it a point to treat yourself to something you've always wanted, and don't ask for permission. You work hard for everyone in your life. You've earned it.
4. Consume Loads Of Your Favorite Media, Especially The Guilty Pleasures
Have a movie night with all your favorite movies, read a stack of books and magazines back to back, or relax with your favorite TV-show marathon. Make a movie/TV/music night. Pick a theme and make your own marathon around that theme, like werewolves, 80s heartthrobs, Broadway musicals, or whatever entertains you. After you’ve indulged in all your favorites, start researching new bands, movies, and TV shows to try. Check out music blogs and podcasts, see what Spotify or Pandora recommends, or seek out the under-explored corners of Netflix.
5. Do All The Embarrassing Things You Like To Do When No One Is Around
Want to dance around the house in your underwear, while singing along to your favorite song using your hairbrush as a microphone? Or want to sob through a sad, romantic movie while eating some chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream? Whatever it is—do it.
6. Spend Time With Nature
It may sound cheesy, but being outdoors (without any distractions), really allows you to connect with nature. Whether you hit a local trail, the beach, a park or just go for a walk, being of nature will help you breath deeper and clear your mind. With all the phones and computers and demands of our world today, it is so important to connect with nature. You will be amazed as to what comes to you when you do this.
Being alone isn’t as bad as it seems and the older we get, the more we understand the importance of being alone and the more we see the value in being good at being alone. In this post, I shared with you 6 things to try doing alone that you will enjoy.
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